Saturday, August 25, 2012

To,

 The editor,

Mimes of india.

Sir,

Well, u can perceive me as just another teenage Indian girl, but what I am writing to you is really more of a serious matter tried to put it in words by a teenager in real concern. Today as I sat in the hall watching the television with my parents, specially my lovely mom, I came across something horrible.

The hype and exaggeration of the reality shows and the supposedly creepy “breaking news” of the news channel have made us teenagers life a living hell especially girls. As my mom witnessed a horrified news of young girls getting raped across India and the manner in which they presented in their “sansani” style , her face dampened and along with my granny she felt extra serious about all this, and in turn , I had to hear a long lecture over this. This has been the case many times. Now the thing which they show is true to some extent, but letme be honest, im a realist as well as a “believist” . now something bad gonna happen, its destined to happen in reality. Just because I wear a salwar-kameez over a tee and mini skirt, doesn’t reduce my chances of getting molested, does it?.

Well I am lucky to be living and studying in the modern state of goa where people from all religion live in harmony . yet there are some things which are prevalent. I cant deny that. Some restrictions are oblivious and I know my limits and I know where I stand. But the hype which this reality shows and the news channel create is just too much. Specially the old people and conservative family personal take it too seriously and we teenage girls have to suffer mentally and emotionally.

 Not everyone is as lucky as me to have a wonderful pagal in my life- gaurav...:)

Now letme tell you few things about gaurav, he is the nicest person I know. The relationship which I share with him is amazing, he makes me happy, and the very fact that I have said “love you” to him more than I have said to any1 else proves how important he is my life. Anyways coming back to the topic. As I felt disturbed with the conversation with my mom, granny, I could think of only 1 person to talk to. When I get disturb I usualy hide myself like a tortoise in a shell. But this gaurav keeps irritating me, god knows why he likes to hear me crib so much, bloody loser! He even “loves” my mood it seems.. and as you know how much girls need a listener who can quietly listen to their cribbing and bla bla bla…so it all balances, no wonder I ended up calling him. Ok fine, as I write this I don’t find gaurav thing relevant to my original serious story, he had just a small role to play as he listened to my anger and agreed to whatever I said and even agreed to help me out in writing a letter (which he never did, lazy douchbag) so that’s all about gaurav.

Now coming back to the serious rape matter, I don’t understand why this men are so sex hungry. TV channels instead of showing statistics and nature of rape cases, should concentrate more on creating awareness and upgrading the seriousness of rape-molestation laws. I think government should really employ stringent laws like they should have men’s testicles crushed under stone if found guilty of rape case, and I mean it.

Funny story, when I was cribbing about such things with bitter angerness I said “if I could, I would chop everyone’s manhood” and gaurav said “please dont chop mine, I would never rape anyone. I promise”..lol he can be really funny at times. But mostly he doesnt talk. He only writes. And yet his one or two witty statements make me smile, and his funny stories makes me laugh like crazy. But then again as I said we two can smile and laugh in silence. Mad people we are. As I am writing this I am smiling thinking about him. And now I am blushing as well. I try avoiding it in front of him, but I know when we meet , sometimes I just look down and blush. He is just an average looking chap but his character is what I like, and well, he likes everything about me. Right from my braces to my beautiful eyes. Ok well I know I am praising myself too much. But I am only saying the truth. “mein toh apni favourite hun”..;)

Ok now forgetting about me and gaurav and getting back to the more serious matter. I don’t get why men are so sex starved. Physical intimacy isn't the only way to connect with ladies. We live in such a sex hungry society. The marriage has lost all its true meaning. A marriage is merging of 2 souls into one. It’s a state where 2 hearts melt, Where in both bride and groom know each other and know what they are doing. Where a groom realizes that this is the girl with whom he wants to spend his rest of the life with, she is the one whom he wants to kiss “goodnight” on her forehead every night. Her radiant innocuous face is what he wants to see every morning when he wake up. However the scenario has taken complete different sequence. I told this to gaurav and I say it again “marriage is just a connotation which legalizes sex, nothing else” . But then again like how gaurav explained not all men are like that , and I believe it. I once even told him that I want husband like him, who understands me so well, I don’t know whether he took it seriously or not. Anyways, Gaurav is really cheesy. A lot cheesy at that. But his cheesiness makes me smile and blush. As he once said “ I can make u laugh and smile without even touching/tickling you, just imagine how much in state of bliss you will be wen I actually touch you”.. pagal *blush*. He just has to tell me how beautiful I am. Despite me, knowing how beautiful I am..:P Oops! Sorry I should be talking about more general issues and not my personal life. So getting back to the rape thing. What our society needs is love and respect. What this news channels should do is work towards betterment of the society and fulfillment of the needs of the society. Education/literacy and stringent laws on alcohol restriction, rape acuse term and jail sentence etc are need to be in place. And most importantly what u need is someone in life who solves all your problems. Like how gaurav calls me his “stress buster”. Well indeed the feeling is mutual. We do need stress busters at times.

And At times I do miss gaurav, but I don’t know why I abstain myself from interacting with him , like for the past few days I havent been replying his calls, msgs. I know how he must be feeling. Outside he shows like he is cool and relax , but I know inside he must be dying a slow painful death without me. But then why doesnt he say anything, like I have told him “I love you” more times then he has said. I don’t get it, why are we holding our love back. Specially he is so cheesy and yet he Is happy at the way things are going in our mind boggling relationship.may be he is afraid that if he overdo some things he might lose me, cuz after all , he wants my happiness and over the time I have realized he means it, but what he doesn’t get is, he is my happiness..:).. Well, however it is, I know it does make me happy and it does make him happy and like one famous quote goes “he smiles, she smiles, problem solved”..:)

So , being in a relationship doesn’t only mean kissing, dating, and show off, its about being with the person who makes u happy, and oh ya! Also men shouldn’t rape anyone- physically or mentally..

Thank you..:P

Yours sincerely,

 Mausambi..;)